Although the most frequently thought of group when thinking about PTSD, it’s not just those who have been in combat that suffer from it. PTSD following rape and industrial accidents is just as likely, yet isn’t recognized as such.
Most people think of flashbacks and a general “jumpiness” when they think of PTSD symptoms. But those symptoms can also include (among other things):
- Anger and irritability
- Guilt, shame, or self-blame
- Substance abuse
- Feelings of mistrust and betrayal
- Depression and hopelessness
- Suicidal thoughts and feelings
- Feeling alienated and alone
- Physical aches and pains
Having PTSD sucks. I know because I suffered from it for years. It’s hard to live a “normal” life when you’re stuck in those patterns, and it’s hard to get help when people don’t consider the fact that you may have PTSD even if you haven’t been in combat. It happens. It’s real. PTSD isn’t just for our military.
When I first sat down to write My Father’s Prostitute: Story of a Stolen Childhood, I didn’t put much thought into what would happen after I published it. After all, I felt it was a good story, with a positive message, so it should just sell itself, right? Wrong. Writing it was the easy part. Getting the word out that it exists has been much more difficult. Many articles have already been written about how hard it is to get your book noticed among the thousands of books that are released each week, and they are correct. It IS incredibly hard to get your book in front of people and have it stand out. Unfortunately, I have noticed there seem to be an awful lot of websites that take advantage of a new authors desperation to get their book noticed and offer packages that promise great results, at a cost of course. I have heard of some authors who have had great results with promotional deals from sites like Bookbub (I haven’t run a promotion with them yet – too costly for me), but not all authors have the same experience. But those are established sites with a proven track record, and for every one of those, there are a half-dozen sites that just seem shady to me. For some amount of $$, they will tweet your book, or Facebook your book, or send out an email to their bazillion subscribers.
Perhaps I’m just the cynical type, but I have yet to hear of these sites having great success. Perhaps I’m just not talking to the right people, and I don’t doubt that some of those sites can have a positive impact on sales, but to me the ‘post publishing’ marketing world seems rife with with snake-oil sites and pie-in-the-sky promises that prey on the desperate author.
If you have used any sites like this, I would love to hear about your experiences. Did they work for you? Was it a disappointing waste of money and time?
Childhood Trauma Leaves Legacy of Brain Changes
It is nice to see that the issue of trauma causing lasting brain changes is finally beginning to get widespread attention. Knowledge is everything!
Woke up this morning to find that the Readers Favorite website has awarded My Father’s Prostitute a shiny 5 stars and calls it “highly recommended“. One can hope that this will carry over to their annual awards, which I hope would help to bring more awareness to the plight of child sexual abuse victims everywhere.
You can read the entire review at https://readersfavorite.com/book-review/32507
When I first started writing My Father’s Prostitute, I thought publishing it would be the most difficult thing about it. Boy was I wrong. All the marketing that needs to be done just to get the word out is almost a full time job. I spend at least an hour or two every day (in addition to my regular day job) just trying to tell people about the book. Even more challenging is trying to do it without coming across all spammy-like. BUT.. today I’ll be taking a break from all that. The sun is out, the birds are chirping, and the lake is calling my name.
Around here, there seems to be no shortage of festivals and fairs during the Summer months. Just today alone is the Weird Craft Show, the Medieval Fair, and the Herb and Food Festival over at Bastyr University. Not an easy decision, but with the Herb and Food Festival just over the hill right by the lake (and a State Park with tons of excellent hiking), I think that’s today’s winner. Besides, I can always use more ideas for my garden!
I hope wherever you are, you’re enjoying your Summer!
June 19th, 2014 is the first annual National Attachment Trauma Awareness Day. The wonderful people over at the Attachment and Trauma Network (ATN) have pushed hard for this issue to get the recognition and attention it deserves. Childhood trauma does not only affect those involved – it can affect the lives of everybody they come in contact with. Even you! Please help spread the word about National Attachment Trauma Awareness Day on June 19, 2014 by joining the ATN network, using these hashtags on twitter – #NATADay2014 #BreaktheSilence #HelpUsHelpKids – or even just posting it to your Facebook page or Twitter. These children didn’t ask for a lifetime of suffering – let’s not let them suffer any longer.
Thanks to all the people who believe in the power of the human spirit, we were able to reach the #1 spot in 3 different Amazon categories recently.
You can grab your copy from http://www.amazon.com/My-Fathers-Prostitute-Stolen-Childhood/dp/1304774007/
Or if you prefer the Kindle version, that is here:
See for yourself why the critics love My Father’s Prostitute!
I will be slowly migrating over the content from my other blog and shutting that one down. I also hope to be adding lots of exciting, new content here so be sure to check back regularly!